Author: jchavae

Book Review | The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie

Adichie delivers yet again with this book. I purchased this book years ago. At first, I was not excited about reading a collection of short stories, but I am glad that I picked this book up, again, and gave it another choice. Adichie is probably one of the best fiction authors I have come across. Her words paint vivid details of each story, each individual, each point of view. Each story pulls you in and captivates you. I literally do not know how she does it! The stories made you think. Her process of building the story is just about perfection. She doesn’t start every story in the same fashion. Sometimes you jump in the middle of their lives, sometimes you start at the beginning, sometimes you catch a glimpse of what is happening & then circle back to understand the circumstances that are unfolding. They are all different and you literally cannot guess what words are about to come next. These short stories are indeed fiction, but they almost make you think that these …

On Self Love || The Book

This book has truly been a work in progress and it has been a long time coming. Back story. If you have known me in real life, or via social media, for the past few years, you know that I co-wrote and released a book called Her Crown in 2014. It was the love of my life and I was beyond proud of myself for releasing a book at such a young age. Who would have known that things would have turned out the way they did. *everything that I am about to say is from this point on, is from a place of observation and reflection, not judgement. I was young and naive. I genuinely did not know what I was doing, I simply had a calling, a push, from Spirit, I followed through, and I learned as I went along (as with everything I do in life). I did what I was capable of doing at that moment, but it was not good enough for the other person. I will say that that …

PoC Book List

This list was created from suggestions from the people. It has not been altered to reflect any personal preferences. The authors will be ordered by last name. Please feel free to explore other works by the authors listed and/or suggest other authors and their works.   Chinua Achebe There Was a Country Things Fall Apart Arrow of God   Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Americanah Half of a Yellow Sun The Thing Around Your Neck Purple Hibiscus We Should All Be Feminists   Dr. Llaila Afrika African Holistic Health Nutricide: The Nutritional Destruction of the Black Race   Queen Afua Sacred Woman   Michelle Alexander The New Jim Crow   James Allen As a Man Thinketh   Ra Un Nefer Amen Metu Neter   Maya Angelou I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings The Heart of a Woman   Gloria Anzaldua   Christin Armstrong Wash Day Cut Day   M.K. Asante   Machado de Assis Dom Casmurro   James Baldwin If Beale Street Could Talk The Fire Next Time The Devil’s Work Native Son Another Country Go …

Dear All Lives Matter

Please before I go ALL the way in, let me state that this post is not directed at my lovely friends and followers who happen to be white and understand REAL history, know what racism is, want to help stop oppression, do not agree with white supremacy, and/or can sympathize/empathize with the plight(s) of people of color in this day and age. Also, let me disclaim that “I don’t see color” and “we are all one race, the human race” doesn’t apply here because in the real word, I am judged FIRST based off of my skin complexion and my afro hair. Also, if you “don’t see color” you also don’t see “my problems” there by deeming me inadvertently crazy or reducing my experience to an overactive imagination. As we proceed to give you what you need. Dear “all lives matter” let me break it down for you a little bit. I understand that a person born of a certain social construct and skin complexion are taught certain things from birth. You are taught that …

How to Practice Self-Love While Dealing With Depression + Anxiety

For a long time (up until last year) I thought practicing self-love was impossible while dealing with depression and anxiety. I had no idea that you can experience both simultaneously. Practicing self-love & self-care during these rough patches are not full of frills and glamor, but are very subtle and extremely important. Showing yourself love at your lowest is what you need the most. It is imperative, actually. Dealing with mental health issues (which include more than just depression & anxiety, but may expand out to bipolar/manic-depressive disorder, schitzophrenia, etc), they do not give you a hand book on how self-love can be an integral piece of your coping mechanism(s). I figured I would share a few things that I extend love to myself. The ways that I still practice self-love whenever I go through a depressive phase or have an anxiety attack are: 1. I do not beat myself up about it. I say, over and over in my head, “Do not feel guilty about dealing with these things. There is no need to …

03.21.17

I wake up & before I open my eyes, I know that it isn’t going to be a day filled with sunshine & rainbows, even though I want it to be. I lay in my bed for hours. It feels as though my body is disconnected from my mind & no matter how much I will myself to get up, read, do yoga, etc, my body refuses to move. So I lay there. All of the thoughts come to my mind at once & I try to sort them out. I really would like to prepare a delicious & healthy meal. I feel as though I have hypothyroidism, but I cannot get that confirmed by a doctor because I can’t even afford the co-pay & even if I had to go back, my health insurance runs out in less than a month. I check my bank account $9.36. I let out a “ha”. I check my email & I see that WordPress withdrew $99 from my PayPal balance (which I was saving for purchases for …

Skinny Girls Have Body Issues Too

I have been skinny my whole life. I wasn’t even a super chunky baby or child. Growing up, and still to this day, people question if I eat or even if I have an eating disorder. Going to a (West Indian or African) friends house, I always get the passive ask/tell, “Are you hungry?” from their parents. If I say no, they ask again as if to say, “I am not asking you, take this food and eat it” and if I do say yes, I feel like I am being watched to make sure that I actually put the food in my mouth and swallow it. I have always had a fast metabolism and I have always loved food. I can out eat most grown men if you ask me. My family used to call me a garbage disposal/vacuum cleaner because I would scarf down a plate of food extremely fast and still want seconds. Weight has never really stuck on me. In fact, when I get stressed out, I lose weight very easily. …

Book Review || Conversations With God: Book Two

I think I finished this book in about a week. Neale Donald Walsch has done it again! This book, as it says on the cover, is a life changer! I consider this a life changer, not because of the insights it holds, but because it made me reflect on and question all things in my life. This book genuinely helped me take a few steps closer to fully integrating Who I Am. I love Conversations With God because even though this book was written from the viewpoint of a middle aged, white, Roman Catholic, American man (do not fear, it is not at all religious, but you can understand how he sees the world), it is extremely relatable, even for myself, a very black woman. You know what angle he looks at life, but it is not an angle filled with opinion or ridicule, it is simply the angle that the author writes from. I also love that the book reiterates that the entity that is God is neither male or female (by interchanging God & …

LOLA Feminine Care Products Review

I have to say I  really loved these products! Being that I do my best to live my life as natural as I can, feminine care is something that I definitely include when “thinking natural”. I think it is interesting that people will choose to adopt a “natural” lifestyle, but they don’t think about what they put in their bodies, especially their vaginas (which is actually ludicrous because the vagina is the most absorbent body part of a woman). LOLA takes the worry out of inserting chemicals into your most sacred space, or even putting chemicals near your yoni. All of their products are made out of 100% organic hypoallergenic cotton. There are no bleaches, dyes, chemicals, or harmful ingredients. You simply choose the feminine care that you are comfortable with (whether they be pads or tampons), order your product(s) & wait to receive it in the mail. Wham, bam, thank you ma’am! I personally got to try out one box of tampons with an applicator (an assortment from super light to super plus) and …

Book Review || Autobiography of Angela Davis

This book changed my entire life. I thought I was just going to be reading about the life of a very historical figure in the Black liberation…boy was I wrong! This book lit a fire within me. Not on the militant side, but in the sense that I felt like I wasn’t doing enough; I needed to do more for my people. This autobiography was a very intimate detailed account of Angela Davis. The book was not so much in chronological order, starting from Angela evading her arrest, then to her childhood, then to life in prison, after that, chronicling her life in school and as a professor, then finally to her being locked up and fighting for her case….and of course all of the in betweens. All in all the book is broken down into five parts. Angela’s life was beautiful, even in the “tragedy”. This book, to me, shows what a real revolutionary is, regardless of violence and political party standpoint. Being a revolutionary is fighting for what you know is right, fairness of …