Author: jchavae

Book Review || The Power of Now

First of all let me say apologies for the UBER delay in posting this review. So much has been happening, I actually forgot to write this up. This was SUCH an amazing book. Eckhart Tolle is probably one of my favorite authors. This book was another on of those reads that had me having  “AHA!” moments after “AHA!” moments. What Tolle said just made so much sense, to me at least. This book is set up in a “Question & Answer” format where Tolle has questions that he has been asked before and he simply answers them in a very direct and simple way. Some of the questions seemed to come from people who were not that far along their spiritual journey, but the way in which Eckhart replies will have anyone, whether just starting on the path of spirituality or someone who has been well on their journey, understand the message that he is trying to convey. Another thing that I loved about this book is that I stopped and meditated on what was …

Product Review || Lone Natural Bodycare

  I have not been using antiperspirants for years. Although I am a heavy sweater, I would much rather soak through some clothes than put chemicals on my body to block my sweat ducts. Lone came into my life when I was super funky. I was using Dessert Essence (and another deodorant that I can’t even remember right now) but nothing was cutting it. I was at work, dripping in stress sweat (which is THE worst) & I was super stinky! I put it out there on IG that I needed some brands that I could trust, being super natural & all, & Lone came swooping in like a light in shining armor! I am an extreme skeptic, but I will ALWAYS try something first before casting it away…luckily, I didn’t have to do this with Lone Deodorant! In my package came 3 deodorants and 2 lip balms. Each deodorant was completely different from the other so I got a pretty good variety. The three scents I got was “unscented”, “citrus”, & “mint” in the …

Product Review || Aroma Foundry

Aroma Foundry is a small business that specializes in essential oils. When I received my shipment, I absolutely fell in love with the packaging! Everyone knows that I am a sucker for presentation and fine details. The boxes that the oils came in had loads of information on them. Literally, no corner of the box was left untouched. What I really like about Aroma Foundry is that the oils are distilled in small batches and they are hand bottled in California. The cool thing about these oils is that on every box, it tells you which country the oils directly came from. I received 9 oils: Bergamot, Eucalyptus, Grapefruit, Lavender, Lemongrass, Rosemary, Sage, Tea Tree, & Ylang Ylang. I will be honest and say that I have not used all 9 of the oils yet (as of how my life is set up, I do not have the extra resources to buy carrier oils, butters, diffusers, etc), but I definitely plan to. I cracked open the tea tree, sage, and lemongrass, & I was most definitely …

Grieving the Loss of Yourself

Lately, I have been feeling cranky. I have been extremely irritable and way more introverted and anti-social than I would like to admit. Something was/still is off and I could not put my hands on it. On paper, things are great. I have a place that I call home. I have a job that pays me well. I have a loving partner that is the most beautiful person in the world…..but something was not sitting well with me. I came across the beauty that is Ashley of @sacredfem while I was looking for future posts for my organization We Heal Too and was instantly drawn to her page. Sure there are plenty of pages with crystals and women of color, but this one felt different. This page spoke to me and I knew I had to interview her for my organizations segment Honoring the Healer: Heal Thyself. Luckily, Ashley was more than open. A few weeks after I sent the interview questions, she sends her answers. I was not expecting to receive a message, let …

Book Review | The Thing Around Your Neck by Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie

Adichie delivers yet again with this book. I purchased this book years ago. At first, I was not excited about reading a collection of short stories, but I am glad that I picked this book up, again, and gave it another choice. Adichie is probably one of the best fiction authors I have come across. Her words paint vivid details of each story, each individual, each point of view. Each story pulls you in and captivates you. I literally do not know how she does it! The stories made you think. Her process of building the story is just about perfection. She doesn’t start every story in the same fashion. Sometimes you jump in the middle of their lives, sometimes you start at the beginning, sometimes you catch a glimpse of what is happening & then circle back to understand the circumstances that are unfolding. They are all different and you literally cannot guess what words are about to come next. These short stories are indeed fiction, but they almost make you think that these …

On Self Love || The Book

This book has truly been a work in progress and it has been a long time coming. Back story. If you have known me in real life, or via social media, for the past few years, you know that I co-wrote and released a book called Her Crown in 2014. It was the love of my life and I was beyond proud of myself for releasing a book at such a young age. Who would have known that things would have turned out the way they did. *everything that I am about to say is from this point on, is from a place of observation and reflection, not judgement. I was young and naive. I genuinely did not know what I was doing, I simply had a calling, a push, from Spirit, I followed through, and I learned as I went along (as with everything I do in life). I did what I was capable of doing at that moment, but it was not good enough for the other person. I will say that that …

PoC Book List

This list was created from suggestions from the people. It has not been altered to reflect any personal preferences. The authors will be ordered by last name. Please feel free to explore other works by the authors listed and/or suggest other authors and their works.   Chinua Achebe There Was a Country Things Fall Apart Arrow of God   Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Americanah Half of a Yellow Sun The Thing Around Your Neck Purple Hibiscus We Should All Be Feminists   Dr. Llaila Afrika African Holistic Health Nutricide: The Nutritional Destruction of the Black Race   Queen Afua Sacred Woman   Michelle Alexander The New Jim Crow   James Allen As a Man Thinketh   Ra Un Nefer Amen Metu Neter   Maya Angelou I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings The Heart of a Woman   Gloria Anzaldua   Christin Armstrong Wash Day Cut Day   M.K. Asante   Machado de Assis Dom Casmurro   James Baldwin If Beale Street Could Talk The Fire Next Time The Devil’s Work Native Son Another Country Go …

Dear All Lives Matter

Please before I go ALL the way in, let me state that this post is not directed at my lovely friends and followers who happen to be white and understand REAL history, know what racism is, want to help stop oppression, do not agree with white supremacy, and/or can sympathize/empathize with the plight(s) of people of color in this day and age. Also, let me disclaim that “I don’t see color” and “we are all one race, the human race” doesn’t apply here because in the real word, I am judged FIRST based off of my skin complexion and my afro hair. Also, if you “don’t see color” you also don’t see “my problems” there by deeming me inadvertently crazy or reducing my experience to an overactive imagination. As we proceed to give you what you need. Dear “all lives matter” let me break it down for you a little bit. I understand that a person born of a certain social construct and skin complexion are taught certain things from birth. You are taught that …

How to Practice Self-Love While Dealing With Depression + Anxiety

For a long time (up until last year) I thought practicing self-love was impossible while dealing with depression and anxiety. I had no idea that you can experience both simultaneously. Practicing self-love & self-care during these rough patches are not full of frills and glamor, but are very subtle and extremely important. Showing yourself love at your lowest is what you need the most. It is imperative, actually. Dealing with mental health issues (which include more than just depression & anxiety, but may expand out to bipolar/manic-depressive disorder, schitzophrenia, etc), they do not give you a hand book on how self-love can be an integral piece of your coping mechanism(s). I figured I would share a few things that I extend love to myself. The ways that I still practice self-love whenever I go through a depressive phase or have an anxiety attack are: 1. I do not beat myself up about it. I say, over and over in my head, “Do not feel guilty about dealing with these things. There is no need to …

03.21.17

I wake up & before I open my eyes, I know that it isn’t going to be a day filled with sunshine & rainbows, even though I want it to be. I lay in my bed for hours. It feels as though my body is disconnected from my mind & no matter how much I will myself to get up, read, do yoga, etc, my body refuses to move. So I lay there. All of the thoughts come to my mind at once & I try to sort them out. I really would like to prepare a delicious & healthy meal. I feel as though I have hypothyroidism, but I cannot get that confirmed by a doctor because I can’t even afford the co-pay & even if I had to go back, my health insurance runs out in less than a month. I check my bank account $9.36. I let out a “ha”. I check my email & I see that WordPress withdrew $99 from my PayPal balance (which I was saving for purchases for …